Having newborn twins in public...
On the the bright side: I am enjoying the twins. I love them and Blythe is getting used to having two sisters. I needed the double stroller. I use it a lot. If I have all three, Blythe sits in the first seat, one baby stays in the car seat clicked into the stroller and one baby is in a carrier on my chest. People have been really nice holding doors open for me. I really appreciate that they are paying attention and being helpful. I appreciate all the compliments I get regarding how great I look for just having had twins. I feel like I look very old and tired, so I genuinely appreciate the compliments. So many people say how precious all the girls are and I love that! Lot's of people offer to help me carry the babies when I am holding both car seats. I don't let them but I am glad they offer. It is refreshing to see so many people offer to help someone.
People let me get in front of them in lines (I take their offers!!). And lots of kids places give you a discount if you have twins. So many people have come over to tell me how lucky I am that I have twins. How they wish they had twins. Even though I never thought about having twins or would have had the nerve to pray for it, I am so happy with it. I love having two babies. It is so much fun, even when we go places.
When I was pregnant I was so worried I would never leave the house again. I literally stocked up on canned goods, toothpaste and paper products. But it was silly of me to worry. They are a joy and very cooperative and easy to take places. It is the people we encounter that are the trouble with going out. Which brings me to the not so bright side.
And then there at least two people EVERY time I go somewhere with this side of having newborn twins in public: The not so bright people make this possible.
*YES, they are twins.
*YES, I can tell them apart.
*YES, they are both mine....(Really???) YES, they are both girls (pink and purple is confusing?).
*YES, they are identical (so it isn't "weird" that they looks so much alike...they are i-d-e-n-t-i-c-a-l!).
*Twins do not run in my family or my husbands (this is when I get the long story about some woman who has twins in her husbands family and she wishes they would have had twins. fyi Twins don't run on the mans side. Just the female side. Either she hyper ovulates (fraternal) which can be hereditary or her eggs have a tendency to split -identical).
*If I don't know you: The way I delivered the twins is NONE of your business.
*YES, I can carry both car seats at the same time and I am not worried I am going to hurt myself doing it. What am I supposed to do? Leave one of the babies in the car?
*YES, my hands are FULL! But they are full of very, very good things and my 3 year old can hear you!
*YES, I know where babies come from....(And you are a jerk).
*Saying "better you than me" is rude. Again, my 3 year old can hear you. But my answer to that is..."Yes, I am so blessed. I have 3 beautiful, healthy girls and I am so thankful for it all! Better me than you!"
*AND...Please keep horror stories about one twin having something wrong with it, to yourself.
*Finally - Don't touch peoples babies or their stuff. This is a rule in general but it seems like people think because I have two, the rules are different. I had to get covers to go over their car seats because SO many people have touched them, their car seat or the stroller. I guess people think they are being helpful but I don't need anyone I don't know digging in their car seat and sticking a pacifier in their mouth.
I have not taken them grocery shopping by myself. If one baby is in the top of the buggy and the other is in the buggy, I don't really have a place to put the groceries. Alan has been really good at stopping at the store or Blythe and I go when he gets home. So this hasn't been a problem.
They have been to the mall several times. There are no automatic doors at the closest mall which is very hard for me, I have to stand there until someone opens the door. It is impossible to do it alone.
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